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CUNNILINGUS:

Techniques and Helpful Hints

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Introduction

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and has the potential to give her an exceptional orgasm. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for those who require a large amount of clitoral stimulation, it is the easiest way to orgasm. Besides, lots of women expect it these days and men who perform great cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered fabulous lovers. Performing cunnilingus also allows the male to experience a kind of pleasure from the vicarious or empathic response you get from the female's reactions.

There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious; meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don't like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. If your partner has a smell that is more than you can handle, or she doesn't feel comfortable with you down there (thinking you won't like the smell), suggest taking a nice hot shower or bath together. This will also allow you to ease your tension and you'll be able to let loose. Remember, the more relaxed you are, the more relaxed she will be.

Remember, there is almost nothing you can do that will feel bad, as long as you are gentle, so relax! Never bite any part of the vagina. It can cause severe, long-lasting physical harm. Any licking and sucking of the labia (lips), vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area should feel great to your partner. Also, once you find something that works, don't stray too far away from it unless you are moving to something that works better, or if you are teasing.

Tongue Exercises

To be able to perform for extended periods of time, there are a number of exercises that can be used to strengthen the muscles in your mouth. Here are a few tongue exercises and positions for performing cunnilingus:

Exercise 1:

Stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible, and then try to touch your nose. Once you are in this position, hold the same muscle groups still and begin moving your tongue around. Practice in sets, moving the tongue clockwise, counterclockwise, and up and down.

Exercise 2:

With a loose jaw, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to keep your tongue in constant contact with the top and bottom your mouth. Once you are in this position, practice moving your tongue in and out of your mouth. For the more advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it, while of course, maintaining position. An extension to the advanced exercise is trying to dissolve a lifesaver held in your teeth from the inside out.

 

 

 

Exercise 3:

Stick your tongue straight out of your mouth, trying to keep your tongue flat and relaxed. Slowly, while holding the position, practice curling the wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and side-to-side. Practice in five sets of ten, holding each move for 2 seconds.

Exercise 4:

Keep your tongue relaxed and open your mouth. Move your tongue in and out of your mouth forwards and in both directions. Practice in five sets of twenty.

Basic Guidelines

Before getting started, there are several key factors the male must keep in mind.

  1. BE DOWN WITH IT

Don't go down unless you're down. Unlike fellatio, cunnilingus can never be done as a favor. Doing it when you don't want to will only bring on the dry heaves.

  1. DON'T BE AN IDIOT

No one likes a slobbering idiot, so don't lose your mind while you're in her sacred garden. Don't start drooling all over her vagina and don't do random things. Always have a plan when you're going down.

  1. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT

The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough. No matter what you have encountered so far, always assume that you have no idea what a new partner enjoys. It is entirely possible to have had many lovers and think that they are all pretty much the same. This is a common misconception.

  1. LESS IS MORE

Especially if you are with a new partner or are not exactly sure what a partner likes, "Less" is always the best way to start out. It is much safer to build up from "not enough" than to try to back down after shattering the mood by being too rough. The final argument to ensure that you always apply this rule is quite simple: if you start out "too" gentle/slowly, in most cases this just excites your partner more, even in the rare cases that it may be a little frustrating. However, if you start out "too" rough for her, it almost always totally turns her off may potentially ruin the entire escapade.

  1. THE WAIT IS WORTH IT

Never start with cunnilingus. Work your way up to it. This may seem obvious. Of course, there are exceptions if you are in a hurry, but it's worth observing that this rule remains true no matter how many times you've been with a partner. With a long-term partner it may seem like you can get right to the direct stuff, but working your way up still has the same effect of increasing your partner's excitement. Just keep in mind that 78% of a woman's pleasure is about yearning.

  1. DON'T SAY "HI" TO DRY

A dry vagina is an unhappy vagina. If, while fingering your partner, you realize she is not well lubricated, simply go back to kissing, fondling and teasing for awhile. Just make sure you actually insert your finger between the labia. Sometimes moisture gets trapped between the lips and it may take some coaxing to get your partner well lubricated. Once you are sure your partner is wet enough, a few light, teasing strokes with your finger is all you need. Again, there's nothing worse than rushing into this, so make sure she's really aroused before initiating oral sex.

  1. PERIPHERAL PLEASURE

Don't start licking her clitoris as soon as you get there. Start with the area around it, which can be pretty sensitive even if it doesn't seem to cause the same dramatic response.

  1. NEVER FINGER FORCEFULLY

Even more important is to not immediately start inserting fingers in her vagina. With most women, that really needs to be built up, first. Also, it usually doesn't hurt to build up a little, even if she's already excited.

  1. TONGUE ON, HANDS IN

Remember this -- Most often, the tongue works best with the clitoris, while the fingers work best with the vagina/g-spot. Someone else's fingers on a woman's clitoris tend to be a little rough, no matter how careful they are.

  1. HAND CARE

It's best to be sure your fingernail edges are very smooth, and preferably cut all the way down to where they connect to your skin. No matter how careful you are, they are likely to cause the woman to get a little sore inside, or even really hurt, feeling like a knife is cutting her. Often this is the cause of soreness that she doesn't realize is being caused by your nails.

  1. SOUNDS ARE SEXY

A little noise on your part usually doesn't hurt, and sometimes it helps. Some women are very hung up on cunnilingus, determined to believe that no matter how much you say otherwise, it may be at least a little unpleasant for you. If you're excited by her responses or by the act itself, don't try to stay quiet about it. The same kind of sounds that will reassure and excite a lover when they're pleasuring you will often work when you're pleasuring them, too. This could be considered a secret weapon in sex in general, because most guys are rather quiet, and yet women almost always find responsiveness very exciting. The contrast between someone who's responsive and most of the other guys makes it even more effective than it would already have been. Also, noise while eating out a girl sends microscopic audio phonic vibrations up her vagina, thereby enhancing the pleasure.

  1. THE VAGINA LIKES VARIETY

One secret is that women enjoy a variety of sensations. Don't continue for too long with the same stroke unless she asks you to.

Getting There

A good way to get started is to start by kissing your partner. Kissing is a great way to start the sexual juices flowing. While you and your partner are kissing run your hands over your partners body skimming across all her erogenous zones, arousing her body.  Erogenous zones include, but are not limited to, the fingertips, behind the earlobes, and the nape of the neck.

Start by kissing her breasts and stomach and slowly working your way down. Don't get carried away with the breasts, though. That's something you should have taken care of before her pants even came off. Right now it's all about the stomach and inner thighs. A little bit of gentle biting is good, but a sure winner is to start at the knee and move towards the vaginal region very slowly. Nibble your way right up to the edge of the vagina, then skip across it and head for the other knee. Repeat. Doing this a few times will surely get your partner very, very aroused.

Gradually move your fingers to brush lightly over her pubic mound making sure not to touch the clitoris or the inner labia. How long you want to tease is entirely up to you, although if you make her wait for too long you might find that her hands come up and force you down. That would be a good indication that she wants you to step up the pace a little.

I can't stress enough that there is no right or wrong way to provide your partner with good cunnilingus. It will vary from woman to woman on what they enjoy and how much pressure they like. The best bet is to start by communicating to find out what she likes and then as you try different techniques or strokes to make a note of which ones make her moan or get a reaction good or bad. From there you can then refine and improve your technique.

Magic Tip : Hover over the vagina for about five seconds before the first lick. This increases anticipation and, in turn, causes an acute increase in your partner's arousal and desire to have you go down on her. Also note that the first lick should be very slow (approximately 4 seconds).

 

Finishing Up

Once you're totally done your partner is going to want you to cease stimulation immediately. The whole area is very sensitive afterwards and even the slightest movement of your tongue can actually hut her. Instead of leaving, stick out your tongue and lay it down on her like a thick, soggy carpet. Just let it sit there like a dead animal for about thirty seconds. Then come off and clean up.

Cunnilingus Positions

You can experiment with different positions to find what works best for you. Below are some suggestions:

Lying Flat - In this instance you can have your partner lie on the bed on her back with her knees slightly bent and spread as wide apart as is comfortable for her. You can then lie between her legs and slide your arms under each of her legs (kind of like a hug) and that will position your head appropriately.

Edge - In this instance you can have your partner slide down the edge of the bed and lean back, perhaps propped up on pillows in a semi-sitting position. You would then kneel on the floor in front of her and start working your magic on her.

69 - In this instance you and your partner can either lie facing one another or have the man on top or the woman on top. The drawback to this position is that it's easy enough to forget what you're supposed to be doing if your partner is also working on you.

Magic Tip (Ladies Only): It is worth your while to do your Kegels. This exercise will help you to increase the strength of your pubococcygeus (PC) muscles that form the pelvic floor between the legs. The toning of these muscles, which contract during orgasm, helps a lot of women to climax more easily.

To do the exercise, simply tighten up your muscles as if you were going to stop the flow of urine. Hold in that position for about 3 seconds, then relax for 3 seconds and repeat. You can gradually build up the number of repetitions you do. 

Cunnilingus Techniques

You can create a wide variety of strokes and responses just by altering the manner in which you use your tongue. One of the key points here is to remember to make sure that the clitoris and the vulva are sufficiently lubricated before you start touching them. With the tongue this is pretty easily accomplished. If you need to, gather up a little bit of spit in your mouth and gently drop it down onto your partner's sensitive area. Many women have found that the heat from the saliva dropping onto their clitoris and vulva to be very erotic.  

The Lick

Clitoral Stimulation:
The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. Never head straight for the clitoris with your tongue; your best bet is to start by licking around the area. Stimulation should start out somewhat gentle. You might want to begin with your tongue and lips. Stimulate both sides of the shaft of clitoris with your tongue. You can also gently stimulate the head of the clitoris. You might want to try flicking the underside of the shaft with your tongue.

Perineal Stimulation:

The perineum is the skin between the vagina and the anus, found just below the vaginal opening. It is especially sensitive. Stimulation of the Perineum can be highly arousing. You might want to be very gentle. Also, you might want to make sure your lover is comfortable.

Labial/Vaginal Stimulation:
The Labia are often called the lips. Just as the regular lips do, the labia respond to similar forms of contact. While holding the two parts together with your lips, run your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time. You might try licking the labia and vagina up and down. Giving the labia a gentle "lip-lock" can be very stimulating as well.

Tongue Intercourse

The tongue is the body's strongest muscle and the majority of a woman's nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside. Since you have more control with your tongue than with your penis, the sensations will drive your partner crazy. Target her vagina with your tongue by inserting it into her vaginal opening. Techniques are pretty limited due to the length of your tongue, but try moving your tongue in and out, as well as in circles around the inside of her opening. Solidify your tongue at first and then allow it to soften by relaxing your tongue muscles. After stimulating the clitoris and labia, your lover may respond well to the insertion of your tongue. You may start with just the tip and later, for variety, you can vary the depth of the thrusts and the speed.

The Flick

The flick should only be used once you have teased your partner sufficiently. Spread your partner's outer vaginal lips (labia majora) with your fingers. With your tongue pointed, gently flick your tongue around her clitoris. Lap at the clitoris with a pointed tongue - much like a cat lapping at milk would do. This is a stroke that can be used when she's very close to orgasm to push her over the edge. You can speed up the rate of the lapping or slow it down, or combine slow and fast in any rhythm of your choosing. Feel free to roam, but keep coming back to her clitoris, as it is the most sensitive. This drives some women wild, and others find it to too intense. When stimulating her clitoris, make sure to start out gently if you aren't sure how she likes it. When you try this, pay attention to whether those moans are joyful or painful.

N.B. The following basic techniques should not be introduced until your partner is extremely aroused (i.e., very well lubricated). These are more intense techniques, and may be too intense for some women, even when nearing orgasm.

The Clitoris Suck

Expose your partner's clitoris by spreading her lips and lightly pulling back her prepuce (the clitoral hood). With her clitoris exposed, give it a quick little suck; pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a lot like licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky. This causes incredible sensation. It is recommended not to use your teeth or heavy suction when starting out.

 

The Clitoris Hold

Take her exposed clitoris (again, expose the clitoris by lifting the prepuce) into your mouth and gently suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm.

The Tongue Tube

Roll your tongue into a tube. This technique works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into a tube around her clitoris. Slide it back-and-forth; in effect, your tongue is doing something similar to a woman's vagina around a man's penis. This is likely to bring any woman over the edge to an explosive orgasm.

Other Tips

The other thing you can do is to put your fingers to good use. My recommendation would be to use the fingers once you know she's fully excited and you can sometimes tell this by the way her hips are bucking up and trying to push hard against your face. It is important to remember that a good lover's hands never stop moving, so keep exploring, insert a finger, or massage her thighs while you perform.

Another good place to use your fingers while sucking and licking your partner's pussy would be to lubricate them and gently rub around the opening to the anus. There are a lot of nerve endings there and many women enjoy that type of stimulation. If your partner is into it you may even be able to insert the tip of your finger into the anus. If your partner is not one who enjoys this type of stimulation then stop if she requests you to.  

You can also try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed or blown to add extra stimulation.

Having a mint in your mouth while you are performing cunnilingus can also improve your results. The mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance. We will talk about this technique a little later on in much detail.

Finally, it is important to remember that some women will be quite happy to stop at one orgasm, while others will want as many as you can give them. Successive orgasms require a little more aggressive touch and stimulation. However, there does come a point when the clitoris is so over stimulated and may become too sensitive to touch. If your partner is finding that her clitoris is too sensitive she will be sure to let you know that in no uncertain terms!

More Advanced Techniques

 

The Clitoris

This is where the party starts. There are essentially two types of clitorises: ones that enjoy high levels of stimulation and ones that don't.

Magic Tip: Clitorises come in all shapes, sizes. A key point to know is that the larger the clitoris, the more sensitive it is. The clitoris should always be handled slow and soft at the beginning. The only way to tell if you can go fast at the end is by reading your partner's reactions. This is an impossible technique to teach. It comes with experience. Just do the best you can while keeping in mind that each woman is different and deserves to be treated as such.

TYPE 1: Clitorises That Like It Rough

The advantage of having a partner with this type of clitoris is that you can be creative. Quite simply, take the clitoris in your mouth and just suck on it. Keep it erect by creating an air-tight vacuum chamber in your mouth. Lick and lap at it. After a few teasers and swirling circles, lap at it with your tongue as quickly as you can. If your partner starts freaking out like it's too much, simply go back to slow, steady licks. The vacuum is a great way to bring her to orgasm, but it's a bit much sometimes, so mix things up with some circles around the clitoris and some tongue intercourse.

As your partner is coming close to orgasm, go back to the vacuum and give the clitoris a relentless head smacking. "Up-and-Downies" are usually the most effective, but your tongue will get less tired if you throw in a few "Side-to-Sides". When you feel the inner thighs start to shake, this is it. Be repetitive. Do NOT be creative. Your partner is almost there and this is not the time to start changing tactics.

Magic Tip: To keep the rhythm going, try repeating a chant in your head that goes with the movement of your tongue. Any inconsistent action may throw off your partner, killing the mood or at least setting you back a few minutes.

Remember that it is important to keep going several seconds after your partner attains orgasm. Remember, it isn't over until the hands come down from above and lay you off. If she's multi-orgasmic you'll have to keep going until you've done the whole routine another four or five times. If you're not sure what to do, just keep going until she tells you she's had enough.

TYPE 2: Clitorises That Like It Relaxed

Some clitorises don't want to be singled out and battered around. These ones need to be treated with gentle care. Just do casual "St. Bernard Licks" until your partner attains orgasm; pure and simple. If you're getting bored try going in some different directions for a while. A good way to keep it random is to spell out different letters of the alphabet with the tip of your tongue (see below for more details on this). You could be looking at about a half an hour here. If you go for that long and she doesn't cum, you're going to be in a foul mood - so if it's too much work, move on. On the bright side, going for thirty minutes is something few people has the patience for, so sticking it out should lead to some pretty good payback.

Obviously these are the two extremes. Most women are somewhere in between. Again, experimentation is necessary to find out what your partner likes and how she likes it.

 

The G-Spot

Yes, The G-Spot does exist. Not only that, but in over half of all women it works better than anything else you can do to cause a strong, prolonged orgasm. The G-Spot is named for Dr. Earnest Grafenberg, who first documented the area in the mid 1950's.

This "spot" is a small "mound" of tissue inside the vagina, between a penny and quarter in size, which responds to being pressed upon. It's almost certainly not the skenes glands, (which are located around the urethra, which is behind the G-spot area), as has been suggested by a few people. In fact, the G-Spot is the tissue in that raised area of the vagina, which has a higher concentration of sexual nerves, and produces hormones similar to those made by the male's prostate gland.

A sort of map to the area -- Imagine your partner lying on her back, legs spread. Your position is between her legs. You would slide a finger inside her vagina, palm up. With your finger straight back - middle finger is best - you would curve it toward yourself, gently, as if you were gesturing to someone to "come here". In doing so, the area you press on should be pretty near her "G-Spot" area. If you know enough to follow the urethra (the tube that leads from the bladder to where urine is excreted) along the inside of your partner's vagina, you may feel a slight swelling at the point where the g-spot is when your partner becomes sexually aroused.

It is important for your partner to be excited, especially if either you or she is new to the G-Spot, for stimulation to have any real effect. The G-Spot is not the ideal area for eliciting arousal; however stimulation adds very much exhilaration once your partner is already aroused. In fact, when your partner is excited, this area is the best way to bring her to orgasm. You work your way back to it gradually, teasing her slowly and gently. Typically, this works best with your fingers. It's easier to hit the right area with two fingers, but this may not be comfortable for her, depending on how tight she is at that moment. When you have your fingers around the right area, try gently pressing, not too quickly. The movement should be fairly rhythmic. It's typically best if you're licking her clitoris (either directly or in the vicinity thereof).

It is crucial not to make a big deal out of the "quest" to find the G-Spot. This will often make your partner feel self-conscious, or distracted. The licking should seem to be the primary activity.

When you find the right area, your partner should respond by getting more excited. Most of the vagina's inside surface isn't really that sexually sensitive. In fact, most of the excitement that comes from randomly fingering your partner is more psychological excitement than excitement from the actual stimulation. That is why women rarely attain orgasm from third-party manual stimulation.

While more complicated techniques work with some women some of the time, the best basic technique, upon finding the g-spot, is to continue to slowly and rhythmically, pressing on the G-Spot while simultaneously licking the clitoris (for a few women, the labia (lips) are sensitive to licking, too). This should cause her to build up to an orgasm.

It is important to know that a G-Spot orgasm is always very different than any other kind of orgasm a woman may experience. It is possible for women to achieve orgasm from many different types of stimulation including vaginal, clitoral, anal, and even breast stimulation. However, those kinds of orgasms are all the same type/quality of orgasm known as "pull in" orgasms. The G-Spot orgasm not only feels different; it also causes the female body to react in a different way.

First, it often causes a "push out" orgasm rather than a "pull in" orgasm. The area around, or above (farther inside) your fingers seems to swell up or to contract toward the opening of her vagina.

If you find the right combination of pushing back when this happens, and releasing to let the orgasm push out, you can cause your partner's orgasm to continue happening long after normal ones would have subsided. In some women you can even keep her at a plateau (raised level) of sexual excitement building up to an even bigger climax. Some studies have shown that it is easily possible to maintain this pattern of build-up, orgasm, plateau, orgasm, build-up, orgasm for over four hours.

That brings me to another important point; G-Spot orgasms cause a huge amount of lubrication; far more than even the most excited woman gets from conventional stimulation. When that extra wetness combines with the push-out orgasm, you get what appears to be actual ejaculation, very similar to that of a male. The built up lubricant can shoot out in such volume that you, or she, may be afraid that she lost control of her bladder. That is not what happened. The fear that she peed can be enhanced by the fact that the urethra is behind the g-spot. In rare cases the woman can sometimes get the feeling that she needs to pee, even though she does not.

In fact, enough sexual excitement prevents peeing in both men and women, unless you try really hard. This is a built-in, automatic reflex because urine is spermicidal. An interesting fact here is that the erection that a man gets in the morning is partially a response of body taking advantage of this reflex to keep him from accidentally wetting the bed with the urine that built up while he was sleeping.

Licking the Alphabet

When it was originally suggested, renowned sexologist Sam Kinnison's suggestion of licking the alphabet, one letter at a time, on and around a woman's clitoris/vulva was outrageous. Recent data, however, demonstrates that it actually works. The real goal is to be able to keep regular rhythmic motions going, changing them gradually and subtly to keep things interesting so your partner doesn't lose interest or become insensitive. The alphabet is probably the longest chain of shapes that you can be sure to repeat smoothly and rhythmically, without loosing track of where you are.

I would not suggest combining this with the G-Spot stimulation, at least not with the intention of really giving your partner a G-Spot orgasm. The two techniques conflict a bit, as the focus of arousal is so different. Also, both require your full concentration in order to be done accurately.

Cough Drops - Nothing to Sneeze At

The way a cough drop, either menthol or mint, works is it stimulates the mucus membranes in your mouth to elicit a cool, tingly sensation. One of the few other easily accessible places on the human body that has mucus membranes is the vaginal area. Many people find that, when used correctly, a cough drop can elicit high levels of arousal.

Here are a few important tips:

  1. Use sugar-free cough drops that contain menthol and mint. Altoids are supposed to work well, but they're very powerful.
  2. The cough drop is most effective when applied directly inside the vagina. It is important to let the drop become smooth and more rounded by sucking on it for a while.
  3. It is best to manually (with your fingers) insert the cough drop into the vagina. This only works if you're going to be using your fingers during the cunnilingus. An alternative is to place it, leave it there for a while and then engage in coitus (intercourse).
  4. If not insertion, the best way is to simply suck on it and then, with cough-droppy saliva, lick your partner as you would have done anyway, perhaps using the aforementioned alphabet technique.
  5. Try breathing on, or blowing lightly on, her vagina/clitoris. It is exposure to air that causes sensational enhancement. The effect, otherwise, is more subtle.
  6. Some stores sell a kind of candy cane that's over an inch thick and six or eight inches long. Take one end of that, and suck/lick it until it is more rounded and smooth, and you have one of the most entertaining objects you might ever insert in your partner's vagina. It is mildly mint and is the approximate size and shape of a penis.

Anus-Free Anal Stimulation

The vagina actually shares a wall with the rectum. Not only does this mean that sexual stimulation is possible from anal entry, but it also means that a similar sensation can be achieved without ever entering the anus by stimulating the side of your partner's vagina that shares nerves with her rectum. This spot is virtually opposite (one hundred eighty degrees around) from where the G-Spot is located. In other words, if you were to reach in and arch your finger to touch her g-spot, then rotate your hand to face the exact opposite direction and make a similar motion, you've got the right area. When stimulating here, it is important to press more with the length of your finger and not with the tip.

Similar to the G-Spot, it is not recommended to stimulate this area early on in your sexual escapades. It is not only crucial to build up to it, but it is important to get your partner extremely excited and very sensitive first. This is not only to make the area more receptive but also so that your partner, because she is so sexually aroused, will be beyond any danger of distraction over what is known as the anal taboo.

 

Around the World

Once your partner is more accustomed to (achieves orgasm more easily from) G-Spot stimulation, and this will come with time, you can occasionally try stimulating her g-spot until she really starts to respond, then switching back and forth between gently pressing her g-spot and pressing the length of your finger on the opposite side, as per the last section. Sometimes you can even get to the point of doing one press on one side and one on the other, back and forth, which will feel amazing for her. It works best if you switch every several seconds, not every time you press, however.

The Cervix

The cervix is another extremely erogenous area. You may not have even noticed it by touch but it's there and once you find it you'll wonder how you missed it. This is yet another area where you definitely want to build up to stimulating. It can actually be painful to touch if your partner is not excited enough. It is crucial that your partner is very aroused before cervical stimulation. It can be very stimulating when touched correctly.

The Cervix is also about 180 degrees around from the g-spot, but it's typically much deeper inside the vagina. It leads back to the rest of the woman's reproductive organs, like the womb. If your partner is pregnant, don't attempt any cervical stimulation whatsoever. Also, watch out for IUDs, diaphragms and other contraceptive devices. Hopefully you are on good enough terms with her to already know if she's using one of these, which fit over the cervix.

The cervix sticks out like a small flesh mesa. It has an opening at its peak which is normally closed pretty tightly. The best way to begin stimulation is to gently caress around the sides and base of the cervix. Remember, she should already be very aroused before you even attempt stimulating here. Eventually, build up to circling it with one or two fingers, around and around, gently staying in contact with it so she can feel the motion through the cervix itself. How hard you can press depends a lot on the specific woman. Cervical stimulation is a technique that works better as a change of pace, not the focus of the cunnilingus session, unless your partner really gets into it.

You may even be able to press directly on the tip of the cervix with your finger or fingers, pressing it the way a penis might if one happened be entering a woman at the right angle to hit her cervix. This is a very difficult technique to master, but it works extremely well when you know how to do it. Practice makes perfect!

Actual Anal Stimulation

This works very well with cunnilingus, if the woman is comfortable with it.

Comments/Appendices:

Taste

Anyone who likes, say, coffee or beer should have no room to complain about the way most women taste. Beer and coffee are acquired tastes. Neither is naturally pleasant to any human being, no matter how much your addiction has convinced you otherwise. Most people, whether they remember it or not, had to learn to like the taste of beer and/or coffee. As well, it is likely that they had the desire to be grown up or adult to help them along. Certainly, taking pleasure in cunnilingus is above drinking addictive beverages on the list of things that prove maturity. Aside from that, there's the fact that some people who give it an honest try genuinely enjoy the taste and smell of a woman's vagina. Those who dislike it are able to simply teach themselves to like it, because of the great pleasure it can bring. Aside from whether you find the taste/smell sexually exciting to begin with (and, because of pheromones, males should, at least to some extent) surely it will become ever more stimulating for you as you come to associate it with the pleasure you are able to provide

Rest

If your partner can experience repeated, extended orgasms from G-Spot stimulation, and you need to take a break, the absolute best way to do this is to give her a clitoral orgasm. This can be as simple as pushing even more gently and slowly on her g-spot, while giving her clitoris more attention so that her next orgasm is really caused by the licking, not the pressing of your finger(s). Often it is necessary for more direct, more firm clitoral stimulation because of your partner's enhanced level of arousal. This works because a clitoral orgasm leaves a woman feeling very sensitive and, at least, momentarily satisfied and wanting to take a breather.

There is, on the other hand, a very interesting trick for staying "in the game", so to speak, when your tongue is getting tired. Switch from moving your tongue directly, to using your whole jaw to move your tongue by slightly opening and closing your mouth. If you tire of this, move your entire head so that it's doing the actual work that makes your tongue move. When your neck tires, it's on to the final backup-plan but the one that works the longest; gently rock your entire body back and forth, at the same speed that you were doing each of the other, so that it's your body that's actually doing the work to move your tongue. For someone who hasn't built up the mighty endurance that's useful with a lover who can have hours of orgasms, this is a great trick. Of course these rest techniques mainly work with simpler, rhythmic motions because they are harder to control. Save the fancy tongue stuff you read about earlier for when your tongue's doing all of the work. You should be able to switch back to the tongue-only motion as it gets rested.